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One of the most common ailments I see in my psychotherapy practice is "busy-ness". As someone who specializes in relationship issues, I can attest to this ailment as a cause of most problems--parental, marital, significant other, etc.

Being busy also carries with it a certain cache'of pseudo importance. "I'm so busy!" = look how in demand I am!
Rather narcissistic, yes?

Narcissistic busy-ness is often a ruse for depression. Depression in a manic society: "I have to stay busy. If I stop I'll feel sad and empty inside."

This kind of busy-ness applies to children as well. Daniel Elkind wrote a groundbreaking book, The Hurried Child. In it, is his observation of over scheduled kids and the stressful impact that this has on growing psyches.

One of the most frequent interventions I come to in session with families is: Take the time to stop what you are doing. Full stop. How else can one really listen, observe, and be present with another human being?

We mustn't fool ourselves. Multitasking is a myth. And we are not a species meant to be doing so many things at once.

The ancient Greeks had a great many things going for them, and one of those things were different concepts of time. Kronos and Kairos. Kronos/Chronos refers to chronological or sequential time, while Kairos signifies a space between time.

Kairos also means the right, critical, or opportune moment. These are the moments of spaciousness in time. Where time stands still. Or, when we wish for time to stand still in the exquisite present. Kairos is where we are meant to live more, not less.

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