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Love is All You Need

I know that "...love is all you need" is from a song. Probably by someone everyone else will recognize except me. But, I've found in my 73 years that love is essential to most things.

If you don't love your spouse, all those little things that don't bother him or her at all and drive you up a wall will seep into how you treat each other. My husband drops socks, underwear, whatever on the floor by our bed. The dirty clothes hamper is about three feet outside the bedroom door. I don't even ask about those clothes droppings. I pick them up on my way out of the bedroom and toss them in the hamper. I love him. And all that he does for me cancels out one sloppy habit.

I love my girlfriends I've had for 50 years and more. There aren't a ton of them. But the three friends I have that are like sisters (I'm an only child), I love. They are not perfect; neither am I. But there is a patina to our friendship that means so much to me.

I love my children. One is an artist who has followed her path and accomplished so much. She's a great mother, friend, and creative soul. My other daughter has had a mental illness for the past 21 years. I love her dearly even though she wants nothing to do with me.

I love God (I'm not talking about being some kind of zealot, here.)

And, I'm not talking about being a doormat. I'm not talking about loving blindly. I'm talking about living your life in a loving manner. Not letting hate, anger, resentment, and the life run your thoughts and your life. There's a saying (that I'll probably misquote) that states "Carrying hate and anger around is like you drinking poison and wishing the person you hate would die." You get the drift. You're the one who is hurt by carrying hate and anger like an anchor around your neck. Let it go. The more you love, the more love is returned to you tenfold. I can feel it. I know it.

Gentleness

Not a New Year's Resolution